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Content Warning: This is about the CNN investigation into the website that has a ‘rape academy’ on it. If you’re not ok to read more about it, then skip this one. If you’ve not heard about it, then here’s the link. I shouldn’t have to say anything here. Or explain...

Where do you look for permission?

Permission isn’t something we’re used to giving ourselves. We’re used to thinking of it as something that comes from outside ourselves, something that gets bestowed on us by people on the outside. Think about permission and how it functions in our society: permission...

This is not who we are

I’m seeing a lot of media and social media posts calling the perpetrators of the act of terrorism that at current count has killed 16 people in Bondi Beach on Sunday 14th December 2025 ‘evil’. Calling this act ‘evil’ puts a distance between us and the people doing the...

Solstice Lessons from a Candle

Wax dripped over my fingers as I held the candle horizontal and tried to get the wick clear enough from the wax pooled around it so it could light.  The match burned down to my fingertips as I willed the wick to take the flame.  “MotherFUCKER,” I thought to...